Advice Wanted

[Nightwing]

I know, I know. I make a lot of advice threads, but I appreciate the input from all of you guys. Anyways, my girlfriend and I got into an argument on monday during lunch. It was over something trivial and stupid, you know, the things most couples argue about. With both of us angry, I took her to her house and dropped her off after lunch, then I returned to mine. Now from monday, until about two hours ago. We hadn't said a word. I'm very much in love with her, we've been dating for about 8 months now.

The advice I want, is what would be something nice I can do on saturday for her? It doesn't have to be conventional or anything. We were both in the wrong with the way we acted, but I couldn't take another day of not talking to her, so I gave in first. Now I just want to make everything up to her on saturday.

[arapaho]

tell her she was right.......even if she wasnt...and that your sorry

take her out to dinner, make it her night, and do what she wants and you'll be fine

[Buff_bronc_fan]

I know, I know. I make a lot of advice threads, but I appreciate the input from all of you guys. Anyways, my girlfriend and I got into an argument on monday during lunch. It was over something trivial and stupid, you know, the things most couples argue about. With both of us angry, I took her to her house and dropped her off after lunch, then I returned to mine. Now from monday, until about two hours ago. We hadn't said a word. I'm very much in love with her, we've been dating for about 8 months now.

The advice I want, is what would be something nice I can do on saturday for her? It doesn't have to be conventional or anything. We were both in the wrong with the way we acted, but I couldn't take another day of not talking to her, so I gave in first. Now I just want to make everything up to her on saturday.


Flowers are usually a can't miss no matter how cliche they are... But in order for the flowers to be truly successful you have to give her a note or card with a hand written message telling her how you're sorry and essentially what you just told us about how you feel about her. The note is the key, but coupled with flowers you are golden. If you add dinner to all that, then you're especially golden.

BTW: If you can be thoughtful enough in your card and she cries, you know you did your job... :cheers:

[zarub]

That's a great start, but you should find a gift that makes light of the argument as well.

Like, if you were arguing over the dog....buy her a stuffed dog toy.

If you were arguing over another girl, buy her a Chippendale's calendar.

Oh yeah, and admit that you were so wrong that is makes you feel sick. (And all guys know that the woman is always wrong, but what does it matter.......put your tail between your legs and limp back head in hand)

[Jewels]

I know, I know. I make a lot of advice threads, but I appreciate the input from all of you guys. Anyways, my girlfriend and I got into an argument on monday during lunch. It was over something trivial and stupid, you know, the things most couples argue about. With both of us angry, I took her to her house and dropped her off after lunch, then I returned to mine. Now from monday, until about two hours ago. We hadn't said a word. I'm very much in love with her, we've been dating for about 8 months now.

The advice I want, is what would be something nice I can do on saturday for her? It doesn't have to be conventional or anything. We were both in the wrong with the way we acted, but I couldn't take another day of not talking to her, so I gave in first. Now I just want to make everything up to her on saturday.


From a girl's perspective.

It's nice to get flowers out of the blue, not because of a fight.
I'd give her something that's going to last. Being a music freak, I'd prefer music.
One time (at band camp...eh hem....sorry), this guy gave me a cd with a couple of songs burned on it that reminded him of me. Now that I think about it, it was after a fight. I still have & listen to that cd.

But if you feel you have to go all out? Okay. A room full of lit candles and rose petals spread everywhere. Her favorite food, a massage & jewelery.
Not to be too nasty, but make it all about her, if you get my drift.

That will do it. GIT R DONE!

[The Dark Knight]

I know, I know. I make a lot of advice threads, but I appreciate the input from all of you guys. Anyways, my girlfriend and I got into an argument on monday during lunch. It was over something trivial and stupid, you know, the things most couples argue about. With both of us angry, I took her to her house and dropped her off after lunch, then I returned to mine. Now from monday, until about two hours ago. We hadn't said a word. I'm very much in love with her, we've been dating for about 8 months now.

The advice I want, is what would be something nice I can do on saturday for her? It doesn't have to be conventional or anything. We were both in the wrong with the way we acted, but I couldn't take another day of not talking to her, so I gave in first. Now I just want to make everything up to her on saturday.



Buy her a pony,

and if you can't afford one,

tell her she can ride yours.

[Jewels]

Buy her a pony,

and if you can't afford one,

tell her she can ride yours.


OMG!!!!

HAHAHAHAHA :laugh:

[Broncosfreak_56]

Buy her a pony,

and if you can't afford one,

tell her she can ride yours.
AHAHAHAHA Post of the month!!! CP for that! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

[delaranta]

From a girl's perspective.

It's nice to get flowers out of the blue, not because of a fight.
I'd give her something that's going to last. Being a music freak, I'd prefer music.
One time (at band camp...eh hem....sorry), this guy gave me a cd with a couple of songs burned on it that reminded him of me. Now that I think about it, it was after a fight. I still have & listen to that cd.

But if you feel you have to go all out? Okay. A room full of lit candles and rose petals spread everywhere. Her favorite food, a massage & jewelery.
Not to be too nasty, but make it all about her, if you get my drift.

That will do it. GIT R DONE!

I had an ex that all but prohibited me from giving flowers when I was in trouble. Through her, (not to say that all girls are the same :D ) I found that honesty and authenticity was more adequate than any BS I could come up with. Just tell her you were both wrong and apologize. In the long run it will work out (not for me, but I was at the time convinced that it was the way to go :huh: )

[BroncFanIN]

Call her up and say "I'm sorry we had that silly fight. I feel badly. I love you and want to make this right. What can I do? The weekend is yours. I dont feel right if your not by my side." Be sincere and talk from your heart.

See what she wants to do. She may suprise you. The ball is in her court, and she feels in control.

(From another girl...)
Good luck! :cheers:

[Archimedes Owl]

Girls like flowers, but rubber ducky presents encased in origami boxes are much better.

[Jewels]

Girls like flowers, but rubber ducky presents encased in origami boxes are much better.

:confused:

You did what with whose dog for a twinkie?

:confused:

[Nightwing]

I appreciate all the advice...She just broke up with me ten minutes ago. I'm sorry for those of you who wasted your time with this thread.

[redbirdy80]

I appreciate all the advice...She just broke up with me ten minutes ago. I'm sorry for those of you who wasted your time with this thread.
:(

I am so sorry to hear that!

[Nightwing]

:(

I am so sorry to hear that!

Thanks...I'm not trying to whine or beg for attention or anything, but I was going to ask this girl to marry me in may. When you never picture an end to things, it hits a lot harder..

[redbirdy80]

Thanks...I'm not trying to whine or beg for attention or anything, but I was going to ask this girl to marry me in may. When you never picture an end to things, it hits a lot harder..


That stinks! Is there any chance she'll come back around?

(We know you're not whining, or begging for attention. You're hurting)

[Kapaibro]

I appreciate all the advice...She just broke up with me ten minutes ago. I'm sorry for those of you who wasted your time with this thread.
Whoa! That was quick. Man, I hope you're okay. Just take a few days to chill, and see how you feel on Tuesday, then if you want to get back together, you'll be calm and clear-headed.
Also, maybe write her a note about how much you've enjoyed being with her, and that she is special to you.

[watchthemiddle]

Ignore her, she will come back around.

[Nightwing]

I wish you guys were right. With all my heart, I do. But it's over...her ex kept calling her, telling her how he can't live without her. He claims to be suicidal just so she'll take him back. And she did. I told this was it, I can't be her second choice. I've never felt this heart broken before, but what can I do?

[Kapaibro]

I wish you guys were right. With all my heart, I do. But it's over...her ex kept calling her, telling her how he can't live without her. He claims to be suicidal just so she'll take him back. And she did. I told this was it, I can't be her second choice. I've never felt this heart broken before, but what can I do?
If she is so easily swayed by someone who plays games like that, you're better off without her.

It won't feel like that for a while, but in the long run, you want someone with some more back-bone.

[watchthemiddle]

I wish you guys were right. With all my heart, I do. But it's over...her ex kept calling her, telling her how he can't live without her. He claims to be suicidal just so she'll take him back. And she did. I told this was it, I can't be her second choice. I've never felt this heart broken before, but what can I do?


I know it hurts, but it doesn't sound like she was as committed to you as you are to her....time heals all wounds...just give the hurt some time..

[redbirdy80]

I wish you guys were right. With all my heart, I do. But it's over...her ex kept calling her, telling her how he can't live without her. He claims to be suicidal just so she'll take him back. And she did. I told this was it, I can't be her second choice. I've never felt this heart broken before, but what can I do?


That sucks! And this is gonna sound hollow, but it really does sound like you've done the right thing. You don't want to be second best. You shouldn't have to be. Still sucks, though.

[Nightwing]

I know what all of you are saying is true, that I'm probably better off without her. I love her, but I can't see her with someone else and let it cut me up inside. She said she knows it's not going to work out between the two of them, but that she's doing what's best for now.

I can't accept that...I just can't. I know he won't kill himself, but she doesn't want to take the chance. She wants to be friends, but how do you be friends with the girl you love? I'm sorry I'm ranting to all of you, but I don't really have anyone else to let this all out on. She told me she loves me, but she has to do this. I can't be waiting for her when it doesn't work out. I don't have it in me. I have to let go..but I think everyone knows how hard that is.

[redbirdy80]

It IS hard... next to impossible. I have never been able to immediately be friends with someone after we broke up. After a while, yes... but I usually need a period to let my feelings cool down (the love and the hurt both)

Don't apologize, we understand. This is as good a place as any to let your feelings out. Writing them down (or typing them out, as this case may be) is probably a very therapeutic thing to do.

You're right... you don't wanna be waiting around for them to figure out it's not going to work... It's not healthy for you at all...

For whatever reason, she's letting herself get caught up in this drama that you don't want to be a part of, and she knows it, but that isn't stopping her. You're not going to be able to help, at least not right now.

I am sorry for all of this, it sounds like you really love her. :(

[Nomad Broncofan]

I know what all of you are saying is true, that I'm probably better off without her. I love her, but I can't see her with someone else and let it cut me up inside. She said she knows it's not going to work out between the two of them, but that she's doing what's best for now.

I can't accept that...I just can't. I know he won't kill himself, but she doesn't want to take the chance. She wants to be friends, but how do you be friends with the girl you love? I'm sorry I'm ranting to all of you, but I don't really have anyone else to let this all out on. She told me she loves me, but she has to do this. I can't be waiting for her when it doesn't work out. I don't have it in me. I have to let go..but I think everyone knows how hard that is.


Fella! She's is playing you like a puppet. Who do you think she ran to after the fight. Been there! You are young enough to move on and forget the girl because your soul mate is out there and it's not her because she would have told her ex to get lost and do what you gotta do. If you are fooled by this I am sorry for you. Tears!! :ugh: