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I sincerely believe that one's ability to bounce back quickly (or as quick as one could hope) from a bad day, bad situation, rejection, or any type of negative outcome, will help you live a longer and happier life. Basically I see it this way......it's going to be tough no matter how quickly we move on from it, but if we can train ourselves to some degree to look beyond and find something good to focus on, we no only get to enjoy things, but in the long run, we benefit by it.
Sounds easy.
In my case, I do bounce back very quickly in many respects. I do so by always having something to look forward to, even if it's just small stuff......maybe supper, maybe a good show on tv, maybe a good game or two to follow that night, maybe doing something with family or friends. I also mix in bigger things that aren't too far away, like the NHL draft coming up and the new CBA and ALL THE EXCITEMENT THAT WILL FOLLOW, etc.
I admit, I was never too good at rejection, say after a partner split.....but I kind of fixed that one good, by being married only once (that part was lucky!!), and to the same great lady for nearly 30 years!
I have a few deep wounds, like most people do. In terms of career, I had one bad boss that nearly did me in.......even though I had good reviews from several VPs in a row. But this one person was on a mission before she took the job. Instead of being up front when she took the job, and helping me move to another department, she tried the other approach (that some terrible folks take) whereby they work against you for a year or two and try to ruin your credibility. I played the game, found myself a similar job on my own (thanks to a former VP), and carried on, even though I loved the job I left...it was my favourite one in a 33 year career. To this day, years later, I still have some "distaste" for that person, but on the other hand, I know I am a better person than she will ever be.
Losing my Dad was tough, but losing my Mother has taken more of a toll, mostly because of how she left. They both lived long lives, but my Mother's last months were harder for me than I expected. Lets just say, I am so happy she has rejoined my Father, and all those last 7 years or so of poor quality life are just a faded memory.
Overall......I have been very fortunate. I bounce back very quickly, other than for a few few things. I try to follow what I preach to others......stay positive, help others, be honest and kind and loving. And try to make every difficult situation something to grow from, as you look with bright eyes to another day.
Good luck and good life to you....
Sounds easy.
In my case, I do bounce back very quickly in many respects. I do so by always having something to look forward to, even if it's just small stuff......maybe supper, maybe a good show on tv, maybe a good game or two to follow that night, maybe doing something with family or friends. I also mix in bigger things that aren't too far away, like the NHL draft coming up and the new CBA and ALL THE EXCITEMENT THAT WILL FOLLOW, etc.
I admit, I was never too good at rejection, say after a partner split.....but I kind of fixed that one good, by being married only once (that part was lucky!!), and to the same great lady for nearly 30 years!
I have a few deep wounds, like most people do. In terms of career, I had one bad boss that nearly did me in.......even though I had good reviews from several VPs in a row. But this one person was on a mission before she took the job. Instead of being up front when she took the job, and helping me move to another department, she tried the other approach (that some terrible folks take) whereby they work against you for a year or two and try to ruin your credibility. I played the game, found myself a similar job on my own (thanks to a former VP), and carried on, even though I loved the job I left...it was my favourite one in a 33 year career. To this day, years later, I still have some "distaste" for that person, but on the other hand, I know I am a better person than she will ever be.
Losing my Dad was tough, but losing my Mother has taken more of a toll, mostly because of how she left. They both lived long lives, but my Mother's last months were harder for me than I expected. Lets just say, I am so happy she has rejoined my Father, and all those last 7 years or so of poor quality life are just a faded memory.
Overall......I have been very fortunate. I bounce back very quickly, other than for a few few things. I try to follow what I preach to others......stay positive, help others, be honest and kind and loving. And try to make every difficult situation something to grow from, as you look with bright eyes to another day.
Good luck and good life to you....
- Go Broncos 2017 and Beyond! - 
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