If you're like me, you find yourself attracted to certain people more than others, almost on first impression. I don't mean physical attraction so much (although that is integral with the way we gauge others), but more with respect to whether or not we like another person.
It's not biased in my opinion, because we react the way we do. For some reason we have favourites, merely based on a feeling. And conversely, if you're not high on someone else's "attraction" monitor, it will probably take a whole lot more effort to win them over.....based really on nothing much at all.
Examples.......
- I meet a group of people at a gathering, and within no time I feel closer to some than others, and without spending much time to assess.
- I tend to be drawn by a certain look, someone that appears to be a nice person, who has been dealt a tough hand, or lacks confidence. It's a bit of a sympathetic assessment, but more so if they just come across as innocent good people.
- Someone who reminds me of someone I care about....makes no sense really, just because they look similar, and possibly behave a bit the same.
Make any sense to any of you?
In the three examples I use (that apply to me), there is some substance however....
- Sometimes initial impressions, based almost solely on looks, are a good indicator of long term relations. Karma perhaps????
Sometimes people that lack confidence or have been dealt with a tough hand, and are just trying to move ahead in their lives without bothering others are worthy of every bit of support they get.
- Sometimes people that remind us of others we care about turn out to be great people as well......plus the fact they make us feel good because they help conjure up positive, happy thoughts about those we miss.
There are many reasons why we feel the way we do.......and yes, some of us even feel pretty good when we see a physically attractive person......that's pretty standard stuff I believe. Of course, inner beauty kicks the surface kind in the mid to long run......from my perspective anyway.
Bottom line, even the best of folks need to be careful not to have favourites when there is little justification, other than a feeling. This is essential in the workplace, in group activities and other similar settings. I've seen it far too often where preferences of these sort are based on little more than a feeling, and had these folks done some real investigation of character/personality, they would have realized the error of their ways.
It's not biased in my opinion, because we react the way we do. For some reason we have favourites, merely based on a feeling. And conversely, if you're not high on someone else's "attraction" monitor, it will probably take a whole lot more effort to win them over.....based really on nothing much at all.
Examples.......
- I meet a group of people at a gathering, and within no time I feel closer to some than others, and without spending much time to assess.
- I tend to be drawn by a certain look, someone that appears to be a nice person, who has been dealt a tough hand, or lacks confidence. It's a bit of a sympathetic assessment, but more so if they just come across as innocent good people.
- Someone who reminds me of someone I care about....makes no sense really, just because they look similar, and possibly behave a bit the same.
Make any sense to any of you?
In the three examples I use (that apply to me), there is some substance however....
- Sometimes initial impressions, based almost solely on looks, are a good indicator of long term relations. Karma perhaps????
Sometimes people that lack confidence or have been dealt with a tough hand, and are just trying to move ahead in their lives without bothering others are worthy of every bit of support they get.
- Sometimes people that remind us of others we care about turn out to be great people as well......plus the fact they make us feel good because they help conjure up positive, happy thoughts about those we miss.
There are many reasons why we feel the way we do.......and yes, some of us even feel pretty good when we see a physically attractive person......that's pretty standard stuff I believe. Of course, inner beauty kicks the surface kind in the mid to long run......from my perspective anyway.
Bottom line, even the best of folks need to be careful not to have favourites when there is little justification, other than a feeling. This is essential in the workplace, in group activities and other similar settings. I've seen it far too often where preferences of these sort are based on little more than a feeling, and had these folks done some real investigation of character/personality, they would have realized the error of their ways.
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