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Some people never figure out other people, whereas some are fairly quick to assess what buttons cause what outcomes with certain folks. And, some push the right and the wrong buttons, pending their state of mind.
I am pretty good at analyzing others.......in terms of knowing what makes them feel good or the opposite. But still, there are times I either choose to ignore the signals, or could care less about the outcome I am hoping for. But I find that if I'm with certain friends, collectively we are quite astute at knowing what makes people tick. That includes a spectrum of responses.
This is a very important skill, especially when dealing with bosses, peers and most definitely - partners.
Bosses - if you want to get ahead in your group, make sure you learn which buttons to push to make your boss like you. Do your homework on this, because if you keep hitting the wrong buttons, you may be in for a terrible relationship, which will make your job extremely painful! BUT, on the other hand, even if your boss isn't high on you, if you pay attention to their ways, you may end up on their good side by doing what makes them happy, saying the right things, and without selling your soul completely.....hitting the right buttons on a daily basis. Sometimes it's simple stuff....say they are very proud of something, try to find ways to mention it. OR, if they like presentations to be short and to the point, do it that way. Say they don't like to be contradicted, just don't go there. There are a ton of examples. Believe me, pushing their right buttons will be a life-saver for some!
Peers - Hey....you have to work with them, pretty much daily, so be smart. Don't make it obvious to others, because they may not respect you for it - if it's going too far.....BUT again, you can be subtle and still win over most of your peers for being a team player, and a respectful one. Unnecessary conflict gets you nowhere.
Partners - If you value your most valuable relationships, you better take the time to observe.....what works and what doesn't. Many folks get into a rut with one another, and instead of putting focus on the good stuff, they start dwelling on the bad buttons. This can spiral. Stop it from happening!! If nothing else, 'get out' if it's becoming a common feature of the partnership. But more important, try harder if you can. And dig into your early days to recall what made your relationship so special in the first place. It's not too late to push those buttons again.
If nothing else, I believe it's really worth our time and effort to seek the good stuff, and without forcing yourself too much, energizing relationships by displaying a wise amount of respect and care. And if you do, don't be surprised if you get a lot of positive feedback in return.
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I am pretty good at analyzing others.......in terms of knowing what makes them feel good or the opposite. But still, there are times I either choose to ignore the signals, or could care less about the outcome I am hoping for. But I find that if I'm with certain friends, collectively we are quite astute at knowing what makes people tick. That includes a spectrum of responses.
This is a very important skill, especially when dealing with bosses, peers and most definitely - partners.
Bosses - if you want to get ahead in your group, make sure you learn which buttons to push to make your boss like you. Do your homework on this, because if you keep hitting the wrong buttons, you may be in for a terrible relationship, which will make your job extremely painful! BUT, on the other hand, even if your boss isn't high on you, if you pay attention to their ways, you may end up on their good side by doing what makes them happy, saying the right things, and without selling your soul completely.....hitting the right buttons on a daily basis. Sometimes it's simple stuff....say they are very proud of something, try to find ways to mention it. OR, if they like presentations to be short and to the point, do it that way. Say they don't like to be contradicted, just don't go there. There are a ton of examples. Believe me, pushing their right buttons will be a life-saver for some!
Peers - Hey....you have to work with them, pretty much daily, so be smart. Don't make it obvious to others, because they may not respect you for it - if it's going too far.....BUT again, you can be subtle and still win over most of your peers for being a team player, and a respectful one. Unnecessary conflict gets you nowhere.
Partners - If you value your most valuable relationships, you better take the time to observe.....what works and what doesn't. Many folks get into a rut with one another, and instead of putting focus on the good stuff, they start dwelling on the bad buttons. This can spiral. Stop it from happening!! If nothing else, 'get out' if it's becoming a common feature of the partnership. But more important, try harder if you can. And dig into your early days to recall what made your relationship so special in the first place. It's not too late to push those buttons again.
If nothing else, I believe it's really worth our time and effort to seek the good stuff, and without forcing yourself too much, energizing relationships by displaying a wise amount of respect and care. And if you do, don't be surprised if you get a lot of positive feedback in return.
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