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Moonshot the more I hear, i cant help but think GET AWAY - FAR FAR AWAY - LOL,
but seriously, dude, this lady is going way overboard.....she is going to ruin that child, and this is coming from experience....the hardest thing for me to do is discipline my kids....so it was great when me and my ex were together but it has become so much more difficult since becoming a single mom.
I had to giggle at what Jared wrote (please no offense jared) because it is so typical male, not in a bad way. My ex would sleep through WWIII so letting the baby cry wasnt a big deal to him cause he slept through it, but it was a HUGE deal for me cause I wake up if the kids sniffle.....and when I had my daughter I was still living with my mom and dad and when my daughter got to be around 6 mths and still wasnt sleeping through the night, my mom forced me to let her cry one night...my mom is a firm believer in this, and I tried and tried but eventually broke down...she never slept in my bed (other than for the special reasons) though, even though neither of my kids slept through the night until they got to be toddlers, so it was tough but I also knew it was no ones fault but mine.
I guess what Im trying to say, is its easier said than done. You think that you can tough it out but when you hear your child screaming and gasping etc, it breaks your heart, so I feel for her but at two its gotta stop, esp, in public. Neither of my kids were tantrum throwers cause they know my limit, they know they can push me farther than most, but they also know that I do have a breaking point. This woman of yours moonshot, has no limit, she tolerates everything and thats the BIG difference. I never ever would have tolerated a tantrum in public, and would not have cared what people thought around me when i put a stop to it, they need to mind their own damn business.
You really, really need to lay down some ground rules and fast......you DO have a say in this relationship and the way this child gets raised if you are going to be a part of their life.
This needs to start with the mom, you two need to do some major discussing on this whole discipline subject and you having a say.
Good luck man
but seriously, dude, this lady is going way overboard.....she is going to ruin that child, and this is coming from experience....the hardest thing for me to do is discipline my kids....so it was great when me and my ex were together but it has become so much more difficult since becoming a single mom.
I had to giggle at what Jared wrote (please no offense jared) because it is so typical male, not in a bad way. My ex would sleep through WWIII so letting the baby cry wasnt a big deal to him cause he slept through it, but it was a HUGE deal for me cause I wake up if the kids sniffle.....and when I had my daughter I was still living with my mom and dad and when my daughter got to be around 6 mths and still wasnt sleeping through the night, my mom forced me to let her cry one night...my mom is a firm believer in this, and I tried and tried but eventually broke down...she never slept in my bed (other than for the special reasons) though, even though neither of my kids slept through the night until they got to be toddlers, so it was tough but I also knew it was no ones fault but mine.
I guess what Im trying to say, is its easier said than done. You think that you can tough it out but when you hear your child screaming and gasping etc, it breaks your heart, so I feel for her but at two its gotta stop, esp, in public. Neither of my kids were tantrum throwers cause they know my limit, they know they can push me farther than most, but they also know that I do have a breaking point. This woman of yours moonshot, has no limit, she tolerates everything and thats the BIG difference. I never ever would have tolerated a tantrum in public, and would not have cared what people thought around me when i put a stop to it, they need to mind their own damn business.
You really, really need to lay down some ground rules and fast......you DO have a say in this relationship and the way this child gets raised if you are going to be a part of their life.
This needs to start with the mom, you two need to do some major discussing on this whole discipline subject and you having a say.
Good luck man
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