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It is old news. Human nature. Rotten despicable behaviour. It is just that lately it has been happening to me a lot. I gotta get it off of my chest.
Parameters:
1)Understand that my perceptions, comments and judgements are based on my own personal experience and anecdotes of over more than 3 decades.
2)Understand that I accept that there are a lot of bad people in the world, both men and women, but that my experience and perception is based upon the behaviour of women since I have no truck with the other side of the equation.
3)Understand that I truly believe that to betray the trust of a spouse to be one of the most despicable of behaviours imaginable.
So... ready, set, here we go!
GIRLS NIGHT OUT IS A DESPICABLE SCAM!
I still remember the first time I heard the phrase. I had married my highschool sweetheart at 19 ( big mistake ) and one Friday night she announced that she was gonna go out with the girls for "Girls night out". Puzzled, but okay with it because I was a trusting soul... I adjusted to the idea. Then I came up with this. "Hey, since you are gonna go out with Annette, I will call Dan ( my buddy, Annettes boyfriend) and we will go out, too!" Within 10 minutes I was informed that "Girls Night Out" was not gonna happen so don't make plans with Dan. 1979.
Looking back... that moment is so revealing. I innocently aquiesced to the dictate of the all powerful message "I am Woman Hear Me Roar" and simply responded as any person would with... "What is good for the Goose is Good for the Gander!." The fact that the evening was canceled, foreshadowed the betrayal on the horizon. She was disturbed bythe idea of Dan and I out on the town... same same as the ladies. What was it in her mind to do that whenever she imagined me doing it disturbed her so greatly? I never gave it a second thought. It was all just about good clean fun, right? 6 months later she cheated on me, lied to me, behaved despicably. No Respect, no honoring the time spent together, no upfront declaration of a new direction... simply selfish behaviour betraying SACRED VOWS given willingly before friends, family and GOD. Later I realized why she was loathe to go out on "Girls night out" if she thought I would also go out. Because she imagined me doing what it was she planned on doing!
Back in the day... women were treated badly. Gloria Steinham, the 60's, Oprah, and Phil Donahue opened the eyes of America to the reality that women deserve respect and dignity... and that they need to demand it and require it for themselves. In this day and age, there is no reason for anyone to abuse another, or to subjagate another person. Only here is the deal...
It went too far. "Girls Night Out" became like a right. Any guy who did not like it was branded as controlling. There popped up strip bars for women... male dancers and it became a social phenomenon. It was not like the seedy strip club scene that existed for men and still is the same. It was in nice, clean, new clubs, a show, a happening.The Chippendale Revue! Do not question our morals! Only women allowed. GIRLS NIGHT OUT. I am woman hear me roar. It was a social experience... women bonding over male strippers. They did/do it as a group thing... unlike the seedy strip clubs available to men. It empowered women. It was riske, but acceptable. Any guy who did not like his woman going to the male strip clubs... well there are plenty of gals to tell his wife how she should not be controlled by his ego. It did not matter that poor dude himself never went to seedy strip clubs himself. It was all about women taking control. Dang, women started behaving as badly as men ever did themselves. Freedom. That was back in the day. Fair is fair. We are all equal. The playing field is leveled. No harm no foul. Only 30 years later... "Girls Night Out" is still seen by and used by women as a "right"... and if a guy aint down with it... he gets labeled as a controlling jerk.
OK. Why is Painter bringing up this history lesson? Dude is single for a year now... he does not even have a dog in this fight.
Painter wants to testify. I swear by all I hold true and blue and sacred, that the testimony I about to give is true and accuratte to the best of my ability to recount the events and situations I will relate herein.
Every woman is different... not all are to be lumped in here. I know there are some good women out there. True and loyal women. I hold hope that one day i myself will find one that I click with and can trust. I am open to that. And I again acknowledge that there are disloyal and untrustworthy men out there.
That said. Here is the deal. THERE ARE A WHOLE BUNCH OF MARRIED WOMEN OUT THERE WHO CHEAT.
"Girls Night Out" is not some innocent deal, guys. Maybe your woman is not one of the ones... but dang, son! I am here to tell you all that "Girls Night Out" disgusts me. Over the last year, and all the pther periods I have been single, I have observed and been around countless groups of women out on the prowl. Consistantly I look for a ring, and I specificly ask if they are taken. Holy Smokes! The things that go on when Girls Go Out!
Two weeks ago... at the Buffalo Rose... I was pretty much accosted, or manhandled by two women, and I liked it! Only then a friend of theirs gave them incredible grief. I wondered why. Suddenly I looked around. A table of 7 women. Three of them were wearing rings. The gal that scorned her friends... stepped over to me and sternly told me to leave them alone... they were married! As if I wanted a thing to do with another mans disloyal wife! But the point is... there are some good women out there. Lots of bad women , too.
I go out alone... I plan to come home alone. I f I could meet someone nice... I still would come home alone. I am holding out for something more than lust... and certainly more than cheating in a one night stand with someone elses wife. Yet that opportunity arises for me quite often. I despise the women who decieve me into thinking they are single... play me all night... then proposition me... always an hour or two prior to closing time. I am looking for a date... a girlfriend... not fornication!
I told as much to a friend of mine recently. He shook his head sadly... and told me I was a fool. He said he was scoring big time with married women and he was loving every minute of it. "You have been cheated on yourself" said he "why not just get yours now?" I did not say a word to him. The look on my face told him all he needed to know. I have not seen him since. I do not respect him any longer.
Six months ago... in talking with friends about my breakup... I expressed to a good friend's wife my disbelief that I hd been cheated on. She scoffed.
"Get real. Any time a woman wants to get laid... it is as close as the nearest bar. It might not be Brad Pitt... but she can go out... do the dirty deed... never tell a soul, even her closest friend... and nobody is the wiser."
"Really?" I responded halfheartedly, knowing it was true. "Do you think it happens a lot?" I asked. She laughed out loud at me. She told me though women can do that and never tell a soul and no one will know... they often do tell their friends. And she assured me that it happens plenty and often.
That reminded me of a time on a Fall Friday at the Little Bear. There was ike 10 or 12 guys and the rest were good looking gals, like over 30 of them. I was looking for a date made sure there was no ring. Romanced her... she led me on. End of the night she only wanted one thing in the back of my truck. I was shocked. She said " I told you I was not married, but I have lived with a guy fo 8 years now, we only have tonight!" I got angry and complained that I wasted my evening withher when there were women I could have met to date in abundance. She laughed out loud. "Don't you get it?" she asked with derision "All those women are hooked up or married. Today is the first day of hunting season!"
There are good people in the world. I guess like maybe 15 percent. The rest have no morals.
Are you a good one? Simple test. In a situation or occasion or oportunity that arises. You have a chance to .... You ask yourself one question.
Moral people ask themselves and act accordingly "Is it right or wrong?"
Immoral people ask themselves and act accordingly "Will I get caught?"
Who are you?
Parameters:
1)Understand that my perceptions, comments and judgements are based on my own personal experience and anecdotes of over more than 3 decades.
2)Understand that I accept that there are a lot of bad people in the world, both men and women, but that my experience and perception is based upon the behaviour of women since I have no truck with the other side of the equation.
3)Understand that I truly believe that to betray the trust of a spouse to be one of the most despicable of behaviours imaginable.
So... ready, set, here we go!
GIRLS NIGHT OUT IS A DESPICABLE SCAM!
I still remember the first time I heard the phrase. I had married my highschool sweetheart at 19 ( big mistake ) and one Friday night she announced that she was gonna go out with the girls for "Girls night out". Puzzled, but okay with it because I was a trusting soul... I adjusted to the idea. Then I came up with this. "Hey, since you are gonna go out with Annette, I will call Dan ( my buddy, Annettes boyfriend) and we will go out, too!" Within 10 minutes I was informed that "Girls Night Out" was not gonna happen so don't make plans with Dan. 1979.
Looking back... that moment is so revealing. I innocently aquiesced to the dictate of the all powerful message "I am Woman Hear Me Roar" and simply responded as any person would with... "What is good for the Goose is Good for the Gander!." The fact that the evening was canceled, foreshadowed the betrayal on the horizon. She was disturbed bythe idea of Dan and I out on the town... same same as the ladies. What was it in her mind to do that whenever she imagined me doing it disturbed her so greatly? I never gave it a second thought. It was all just about good clean fun, right? 6 months later she cheated on me, lied to me, behaved despicably. No Respect, no honoring the time spent together, no upfront declaration of a new direction... simply selfish behaviour betraying SACRED VOWS given willingly before friends, family and GOD. Later I realized why she was loathe to go out on "Girls night out" if she thought I would also go out. Because she imagined me doing what it was she planned on doing!
Back in the day... women were treated badly. Gloria Steinham, the 60's, Oprah, and Phil Donahue opened the eyes of America to the reality that women deserve respect and dignity... and that they need to demand it and require it for themselves. In this day and age, there is no reason for anyone to abuse another, or to subjagate another person. Only here is the deal...
It went too far. "Girls Night Out" became like a right. Any guy who did not like it was branded as controlling. There popped up strip bars for women... male dancers and it became a social phenomenon. It was not like the seedy strip club scene that existed for men and still is the same. It was in nice, clean, new clubs, a show, a happening.The Chippendale Revue! Do not question our morals! Only women allowed. GIRLS NIGHT OUT. I am woman hear me roar. It was a social experience... women bonding over male strippers. They did/do it as a group thing... unlike the seedy strip clubs available to men. It empowered women. It was riske, but acceptable. Any guy who did not like his woman going to the male strip clubs... well there are plenty of gals to tell his wife how she should not be controlled by his ego. It did not matter that poor dude himself never went to seedy strip clubs himself. It was all about women taking control. Dang, women started behaving as badly as men ever did themselves. Freedom. That was back in the day. Fair is fair. We are all equal. The playing field is leveled. No harm no foul. Only 30 years later... "Girls Night Out" is still seen by and used by women as a "right"... and if a guy aint down with it... he gets labeled as a controlling jerk.
OK. Why is Painter bringing up this history lesson? Dude is single for a year now... he does not even have a dog in this fight.
Painter wants to testify. I swear by all I hold true and blue and sacred, that the testimony I about to give is true and accuratte to the best of my ability to recount the events and situations I will relate herein.
Every woman is different... not all are to be lumped in here. I know there are some good women out there. True and loyal women. I hold hope that one day i myself will find one that I click with and can trust. I am open to that. And I again acknowledge that there are disloyal and untrustworthy men out there.
That said. Here is the deal. THERE ARE A WHOLE BUNCH OF MARRIED WOMEN OUT THERE WHO CHEAT.
"Girls Night Out" is not some innocent deal, guys. Maybe your woman is not one of the ones... but dang, son! I am here to tell you all that "Girls Night Out" disgusts me. Over the last year, and all the pther periods I have been single, I have observed and been around countless groups of women out on the prowl. Consistantly I look for a ring, and I specificly ask if they are taken. Holy Smokes! The things that go on when Girls Go Out!
Two weeks ago... at the Buffalo Rose... I was pretty much accosted, or manhandled by two women, and I liked it! Only then a friend of theirs gave them incredible grief. I wondered why. Suddenly I looked around. A table of 7 women. Three of them were wearing rings. The gal that scorned her friends... stepped over to me and sternly told me to leave them alone... they were married! As if I wanted a thing to do with another mans disloyal wife! But the point is... there are some good women out there. Lots of bad women , too.
I go out alone... I plan to come home alone. I f I could meet someone nice... I still would come home alone. I am holding out for something more than lust... and certainly more than cheating in a one night stand with someone elses wife. Yet that opportunity arises for me quite often. I despise the women who decieve me into thinking they are single... play me all night... then proposition me... always an hour or two prior to closing time. I am looking for a date... a girlfriend... not fornication!
I told as much to a friend of mine recently. He shook his head sadly... and told me I was a fool. He said he was scoring big time with married women and he was loving every minute of it. "You have been cheated on yourself" said he "why not just get yours now?" I did not say a word to him. The look on my face told him all he needed to know. I have not seen him since. I do not respect him any longer.
Six months ago... in talking with friends about my breakup... I expressed to a good friend's wife my disbelief that I hd been cheated on. She scoffed.
"Get real. Any time a woman wants to get laid... it is as close as the nearest bar. It might not be Brad Pitt... but she can go out... do the dirty deed... never tell a soul, even her closest friend... and nobody is the wiser."
"Really?" I responded halfheartedly, knowing it was true. "Do you think it happens a lot?" I asked. She laughed out loud at me. She told me though women can do that and never tell a soul and no one will know... they often do tell their friends. And she assured me that it happens plenty and often.
That reminded me of a time on a Fall Friday at the Little Bear. There was ike 10 or 12 guys and the rest were good looking gals, like over 30 of them. I was looking for a date made sure there was no ring. Romanced her... she led me on. End of the night she only wanted one thing in the back of my truck. I was shocked. She said " I told you I was not married, but I have lived with a guy fo 8 years now, we only have tonight!" I got angry and complained that I wasted my evening withher when there were women I could have met to date in abundance. She laughed out loud. "Don't you get it?" she asked with derision "All those women are hooked up or married. Today is the first day of hunting season!"
There are good people in the world. I guess like maybe 15 percent. The rest have no morals.
Are you a good one? Simple test. In a situation or occasion or oportunity that arises. You have a chance to .... You ask yourself one question.
Moral people ask themselves and act accordingly "Is it right or wrong?"
Immoral people ask themselves and act accordingly "Will I get caught?"
Who are you?
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