To all married people...

[BroncoRT]

How do you survive??? I have been married a year now and I have been with my wife for 8 years. Things can get tough and crazy and I wonder if anybody has some secrets, tips or knowledge on how to make things easier.

[Calif. Bronco]

Well see the secret is ... oh wait, I'm divorced - never mind

[AlWilsonizKING]

8 years, you must be doing something right.....



PEACE!!!

[BroncoRT]

Well see the secret is ... oh wait, I'm divorced - never mind

In your case...what shouldn't I do?

J/K.

[Day1BroncoFan]

First, it takes two to make it work.
Second, you have to just do what ever it takes to work it out, .
Third, you have to swallow your pride and just work it out.
Fourth, you have to decide that no matter what, you will just work it out.
Fifth, you... just work it out.

If one doesn't want to work it out, it probably won't work out.

Be the first one to end the heated discussion.

[Skywalker]

First, it takes two to make it work.
Second, you have to just do what ever it takes to work it out, .
Third, you have to swallow your pride and just work it out.
Fourth, you have to decide that no matter what, you will just work it out.
Fifth, you... just work it out.

If one doesn't want to work it out, it probably won't work out.

Be the first one to end the heated discussion.

That's alot of work outs

[mattos]

i think the secret comes down to having a realistic view of love and marriage (i.e. not that which is portrayed on mtv et al). before i got married my father told me that i should fully expect to, at some point in my marriage, say to myself "i can't believe i married this person, that was the biggest mistake of my life." he didn't say that because he didn't like my wife, rather it was simply realistic advice on what to expect in any permanent relationship. when you realize that those kinds of thoughts and feelings are normal you can approach them properly - which is to put your head down and work through the problem. that is what real love is - caring for the other person when you feel like you hate them. on the other hand, when you believe that marriage is some kind of self fulfillment fairy tale you will approach that problem like many people these days saying "i've fallen out of love and so i need to leave and look for some other person who i will always have happy feelings towards." many divorces can thus be attributed to a simply childish view of love.

edit: pretty much what day1 said

[Day1BroncoFan]

That's alot of work outs

You gotta be willing to work it out no matter what, anything less is well, not going to work. My first marriage for example. I'm on my second and last because, no matter what, I'm going to work it out.

[JWinn]

Never, ever, EVER lie!!


Not even the little white lies. :nono:

[BroncoRT]

i think the secret comes down to having a realistic view of love and marriage (i.e. not that which is portrayed on mtv et al). before i got married my father told me that i should fully expect to, at some point in my marriage, say to myself "i can't believe i married this person, that was the biggest mistake of my life." he didn't say that because he didn't like my wife, rather it was simply realistic advice on what to expect in any permanent relationship. when you realize that those kinds of thoughts and feelings are normal you can approach them properly - which is to put your head down and work through the problem. that is what real love is - caring for the other person when you feel like you hate them. on the other hand, when you believe that marriage is some kind of self fulfillment fairy tale you will approach that problem like many people these days saying "i've fallen out of love and so i need to leave and look for some other person who i will always have happy feelings towards." many divorces can thus be attributed to a simply childish view of love.

edit: pretty much what day1 said

Great post. It is amazing how many feelings get stirred around. Love, hate, anger, happiness...it drives a person crazy!!

It is true about people wanting the "fairy tale" marriage. I think my word of advice is that the "fairy tale" marriage doesn't exist. It is a roller coaster with many ups and downs, just enjoy the ride.

[SeeingRed]

I have no secrets or advice. I've been married for over 2 years and have, thus far, not hit any major speed bumps.

[BroncoRT]

I have no secrets or advice. I've been married for over 2 years and have, thus far, not hit any major speed bumps.

Lucky you...

[DevilSpawn]

How do you survive??? I have been married a year now and I have been with my wife for 8 years. Things can get tough and crazy and I wonder if anybody has some secrets, tips or knowledge on how to make things easier.

Do everything she says but tell your friends that you didn't.

And tivo football if she wants to talk.

[16milehigh87]

Ok here is the secret to success with marriage.

1. Expect nothing and give all.
2. She is always right.
3. She will always have the last word.
4.Buy shares in a flower company you will be buying a lot.
5.When you do screw up buy her gold.
6.If you screwed up real bad buy her diamonds.
7.If you think you screwed up so bad the relationships over. Give her the Credit Card.
8. She is always right.

Normally number 1 is all it takes.

[Uula Bear]

Failing at marriage, I can tell you what not to do... Don't go out partying every night with the boys.