How do you meet women?

[LordTrychon]

I honestly don't have any idea.


I have a hard time meeting women. I spend almost all of my time at work... when I'm not at work, I'm at home. If not one of those two, I'm out at the bar, but with my Dad and Stepmom and their friends. I honestly seem to fit in with that crowd better anyway... I don't know many 24 yr olds that I really would enjoy hanging out with.

I can't date at work.

I'm not comfortable just chatting up a random woman at a bar, and I'd feel really odd doing it when I'm at the bar with my Dad and Stepmom (even though they are my best friends)

Maybe I just am not motivated enough to meet women. Honestly, I'm in no hurry to be in another relationship, and some close to me would argue that I'm still rather hung up on other relationship issues and they may be right. The same people would also tell me that I really need to get out and meet some girls.

How do you do that though?

Although I don't feel rushed to meet a girl, I've been really lonely for several months now.

Past girlfriends I've met -

1- Internet

2- She approached me (I wish this would happen more)

3- Was dating a friend of mine (I don't recommend this one...)

4- Work (before I was management)

5- Work (still before management)

6- Broncomania (damn you, linear distances)


I suck at meeting women... I even dated a few of those more than once... that made it easier or something.


Your thoughts?

[Fred the Bunny]

I hate being married sometimes.

[OaklandxxRaider]

I honestly don't have any idea.


I have a hard time meeting women. I spend almost all of my time at work... when I'm not at work, I'm at home. If not one of those two, I'm out at the bar, but with my Dad and Stepmom and their friends. I honestly seem to fit in with that crowd better anyway... I don't know many 24 yr olds that I really would enjoy hanging out with.

I can't date at work.

I'm not comfortable just chatting up a random woman at a bar, and I'd feel really odd doing it when I'm at the bar with my Dad and Stepmom (even though they are my best friends)

Maybe I just am not motivated enough to meet women. Honestly, I'm in no hurry to be in another relationship, and some close to me would argue that I'm still rather hung up on other relationship issues and they may be right. The same people would also tell me that I really need to get out and meet some girls.

How do you do that though?

Although I don't feel rushed to meet a girl, I've been really lonely for several months now.

Past girlfriends I've met -

1- Internet

2- She approached me (I wish this would happen more)

3- Was dating a friend of mine (I don't recommend this one...)

4- Work (before I was management)

5- Work (still before management)

6- Broncomania (damn you, linear distances)


I suck at meeting women... I even dated a few of those more than once... that made it easier or something.


Your thoughts?

My thoughts are, be yourself. I know you a little bit, and you're a really good guy, and im sure you know that. Now, if you go to bars, even if it is with your dad and step mom, that doesnt mean you cant chat up the ladies. I say just be yourself, and shed the nervousness, and go for it. I look at it this way, especially if im drunk at a bar... whats the worst that could happen? Being shot down... and thats not really that horrible. Slide down those pimp shades, and put the mack on the ladies!!! Those are my thoughts.

[CinnaMunMun]

I've got the same problem man. What has worked for me I suppose is parties. Not random ones up on the Hill, but one's my buddies throw. Find a girl, hope for the best!

In fact, there is this extremely cute asian girl who keeps eyeballing me at this one place, I haven't had the guts to talk to her yet, but I'm almost there. I just hope she's not staring at me because of something on my face (besides the beautiful-ness).

What do you enjoy doing? Bowling, working out, clubs? Maybe try to find an outgoing activity that you enjoy and find some beautiful lady that shares the ejoyment?

Until then, we should have a bachelor party.

[hilife]

. I'm in the same boat you are but from what I know the best beat is to relax, be yourself and don't try to impress or over do it. That's when you usually mess things up. Let it come natural because you don't want to come off as fake or trying to hard. If they don't like you f.... it you can find better. .............Besides you can always rent one

[LordTrychon]

My thoughts are, be yourself. I know you a little bit, and you're a really good guy, and im sure you know that. Now, if you go to bars, even if it is with your dad and step mom, that doesnt mean you cant chat up the ladies. I say just be yourself, and shed the nervousness, and go for it. I look at it this way, especially if im drunk at a bar... whats the worst that could happen? Being shot down... and thats not really that horrible. Slide down those pimp shades, and put the mack on the ladies!!! Those are my thoughts.

I have a hard time feeling comfortable just talking to a woman I hardly know though, too... Just cause she seems friendly or cute, I really don't enjoy talking to people that I don't know something about in advance... She could kill kittens!

I've got the same problem man. What has worked for me I suppose is parties. Not random ones up on the Hill, but one's my buddies throw. Find a girl, hope for the best!

In fact, there is this extremely cute asian girl who keeps eyeballing me at this one place, I haven't had the guts to talk to her yet, but I'm almost there. I just hope she's not staring at me because of something on my face (besides the beautiful-ness).

What do you enjoy doing? Bowling, working out, clubs? Maybe try to find an outgoing activity that you enjoy and find some beautiful lady that shares the ejoyment?

Until then, we should have a bachelor party.

Yeah... I don't have enough friends here either... none that throw parties... I actually had a shot with a really hot girl at a party my roomates and I threw once in CO... until one of her friends called me a goober and she took him very seriously.

I'm with you though... why should bachelor parties be reserved for those getting married? Lets go!

(BTW... there's really no clubs in Casper... lol)

[LordTrychon]

. I'm in the same boat you are but from what I know the best beat is to relax, be yourself and don't try to impress or over do it. That's when you usually mess things up. Let it come natural because you don't want to come off as fake or trying to hard. If they don't like you f.... it you can find better. .............Besides you can always rent one

Thanks for the response, hilife...


Really my problem is getting to the point where I'm TALKING to one to begin with. Usually after that, I'm ok.... I just never find girls to talk to.

[OaklandxxRaider]

"I have a hard time feeling comfortable just talking to a woman I hardly know though, too... Just cause she seems friendly or cute, I really don't enjoy talking to people that I don't know something about in advance... She could kill kittens!"


LOL! Very true, she could kill kittens... and if thats the case, run, and run fast!! As far as talking to women you dont know, thats how you get to know a woman. Talk to them... thats how you get to know them, and thats how you find out if you two are compatible or not. Women get turned on the most by guys that are themselves. I have faith in you bro.... eventually, you just have to shake off the jitters, and go for what you want.

[LordTrychon]

"I have a hard time feeling comfortable just talking to a woman I hardly know though, too... Just cause she seems friendly or cute, I really don't enjoy talking to people that I don't know something about in advance... She could kill kittens!"


LOL! Very true, she could kill kittens... and if thats the case, run, and run fast!! As far as talking to women you dont know, thats how you get to know a woman. Talk to them... thats how you get to know them, and thats how you find out if you two are compatible or not. Women get turned on the most by guys that are themselves. I have faith in you bro.... eventually, you just have to shake off the jitters, and go for what you want.

So where do you go to meet them though? I seldom find many girls my age that seem interesting and single. Just the bar?

That's what I'm really curious about... Where do you find good single women that aren't just looking for free drinks or one night stands?

[Snapping Turtle]

Well LT...let me tell ya, girls like me wont help your situation. I am far to shy to ever approach a guy...I'm always waiting for the someone to approach me. Its pretty crappy when there are two shy people involved.

Anyway, all I have to say is that you are a cool guy LT, you'll find her somewhere, just dont give up. And don't let the opportunity pass you bye. I've had that happen to me before. I liked this guy and never did anything about it...and then he moved. Found out he liked me too and he was to shy to talk to me. So don't let that happen to you...its crappy!

ANYWAYS... go find some pretty girl at a football game!

[OaklandxxRaider]

So where do you go to meet them though? I seldom find many girls my age that seem interesting and single. Just the bar?

That's what I'm really curious about... Where do you find good single women that aren't just looking for free drinks or one night stands?

Well, the way my mind works is... you can meet a great woman anywhere. Grocery store, church(if you attend church), the park, a bar, pretty much anywhere. If i feel like i want to pursue a woman, i just go for it, no matter where it is. I wish i knew where to meet a good single girl, cause id be there right now!!! I just go with the flow. If you look too hard, chances are you'll look right past her. What about you, whats your opinion? Where would you like to go to meet someone? Any ideas?

[SmithOverTO]

I met my wife on a business meeting, so I cant really understand your reluctance to date in that field, LT, unless you already know of all their pitfalls and bad habits

I dated alot in college and pre-marriage, and I honestly had the most fun doing the standard bar approach.

[xX-Bronco-Xx]

I meet girls at school.

Sorry that this doesn't help.

[LordTrychon]

I met my wife on a business meeting, so I cant really understand your reluctance to date in that field, LT, unless you already know of all their pitfalls and bad habits

I dated alot in college and pre-marriage, and I honestly had the most fun doing the standard bar approach.

I'm a manager in a fairly large company... I feel it's inappropriate to date employees of the same company... although the company has no policy against it. I think it's unprofessional, and I also think that it's a dangerous road, should something go badly... i.e... I date a girl in a different department... We break up and she quits, upsetting her direct manager.

Not worth it.


Thanks for the input though.

[SmithOverTO]

I'm a manager in a fairly large company... I feel it's inappropriate to date employees of the same company... although the company has no policy against it. I think it's unprofessional, and I also think that it's a dangerous road, should something go badly... i.e... I date a girl in a different department... We break up and she quits, upsetting her direct manager.

Not worth it.


Thanks for the input though.

Yes, being the boss can put a whole different attitude on the whole dating thing.


Do you have any college buddies near ya? I find getting the "old timers" and just going to a bar can turn things mighty interesting, mighty quick