I just cleaned my toilet. It's pretty cool now.

[BlueDamsel]

Originally posted by NOLABroncofan
One o' the few times I'll disagree with ya BD. I have two babies ( well.. 5 & 9 but they are still my "babies" ) that live with their mother. I could care less if my ex shacks up with someone, but that individual will NEVER be able to call my babies "his kids". He will undoubtedly assume a male role model position.... but again, they are not his kids; regardless of what he provides.

Nuff said...

Perhaps the way I worded it was wrong - it does totally depend on the situation...I'll have to continue this in PM because I don't feel like discussing personal views on this board.

[horsesense]

but again, they are not his kids; regardless of what he provides.

W/O stepping on toes here NOLA. Hopefully your kids feel the same way. Thats really all that matters, right?

[Uula Bear]

Originally posted by BlueDamsel
I'll have to continue this in PM because I don't feel like discussing personal views on this board.

Come on Blue...don't hide your opinions behind PM's...hehe. I thought we were all comfortable enough to disguse everything openly.
I have a great example of what you are talking about:
I started dating my son's mom when he was 1. He would visit his father on the weekends but I hung out with of him all the time. When my daughter was born, his mom and I get married and lived together so I spent even more time with him. His mom and I never pressured him to call me dad and he'd always called my by my first name. When my daughter started talking and calling me daddy, he started calling me daddy Dennis and calling his father 'dad'. As they got older he dropped Dennis and just started calling me dad.
After my wife and I got divorced, she moved in with a guy but my kids were 5 & 8 and never did call him dad. I'm sure they see him as a father figure cuz I'm not there for them to look up to. Even now, after nearly 5 years of living without me, he still calls me dad and I'll still call him son. As he's getting older and easier to take care of his father is getting him more and more, he still always spends half of his summer vacation with me.

[NOLABroncofan]

Just a note here:

The PM's have been passed back and forth and all is well ( BD and I are planning a Kumbiya circle in the near future )

I take no offense to anyone that fills the father figure role in a relationship. I merely wanted to point out that in my particular case, I don't consider myself a deadbeat dad. I support my children financially, as well as keep in contact with them at the very least weekly. Thus.... I would be upset if someone else became "daddy". I'm fulfilling this role as best I can from a long distance. Just my $.02

Nuff said...

[horsesense]

Clap, Clap, Clap. (standing O) Thats what Im talking about!
Props to you NOLA, my Veteran brother.