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    Maybe not what you would expect from Fred the Bunny....

    But some serious posting about relationships.


    I'm not a big believer in marraige these days.
    This would make some sense due to the fact I'm coming out of a ten year relationship. I'm happy to report that I'm coming out of my bitter phase and find myself (closer to being) ready to move on. I'm going to file for divorce within a couple of months (insurance and money being the only reason for delay).

    However, I don't like what I'm seeing in the single world. I've forgotten about some things.

    I watch as single, beautiful, funny women are often tossed aside as good mates for many a shallow reason....

    *Discounted because they have a kid (okay..this one is a given...not all men are ready to be dads to a kid who isn't theirs & I can see that). However, these women seem good enough to sleep with, huh? Hmmm...

    *Discounted because they aren't the picture perfect, model type (ugh...same old same old...I could go on here for awhile too, but who wants to be with a guy who has such high, unrealistic standards anyways? Really?)

    * Sell themselves short of a good relationship with a good man because they don't believe they are worthy. They settle. They pick men on the mere fact that the guy gives them compiments and shows them attention.

    I could go on....

    This makes me sad.
    I would like to see the women I know (and adore) love themselves enough to slow down & take the time to look for what they truly want in a relationship....never settle for anything less than what they want & deserve.


    It seems that there is a small percentage of MARRIED men who prey on these types of women. In my opinion? These are the worst forms of life on the planet. They play endless mind games with these women...trying to cure their own boredom and avoiding addressing their lives at home. They are scared, little boys who wouldn't know what a real man was if it smacked them in the head. Real men don't need to stray-out from their wives to find excitement. Good men work hard to fix the issues at home. Real men know that you have to end one relationship before you can start another. What cowards these guys are who stalk and chase a woman while they still have one in their bed at home. They make no mention of their said wives...whether it be on these forums or in real life. Shame on them.

    Yeah, you know who you are.:hammer:

    And it makes ME wonder now...

    Is this what I have to look forward to?
    If this is the case, then I'd like to retract my application to the single mothers with standards society. I'll fair much better alone...raising my kid.

    Am I crazy? Are my expectations too high?

    When it's time for me to venture back out into the dating world...will this be what I have in store for me?

    YUCK!?
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    It's a scary scary world out there, with or without a kid.

    But if you have good friends, you can get through anything!
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    • #3
      fred there are some good eggs in the world
      a bunnies just gotta keep her chin up

      youve got a special lil man in your heart to not let any idiot into him life

      hope ya continue to keep on the bunny trail and youll soon find the right mr bunny in no time flat
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      • #4
        Been there and done that with terrible men who can not/do not man up to their responsibilities and take care of business...

        Don't care to do it again.

        Consider that a VERY emotionally expensive lesson learned... not to be repeated.
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        • #5
          What? Everyone's reading, but nobody's saying anything?

          I hear crickets!

          Ugh...
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          • #6
            Originally posted by Fred the Bunny View Post
            What? Everyone's reading, but nobody's saying anything?

            I hear crickets!

            Ugh...
            They don't dare wade in and try to speak where the wrath of a couple of single mothers is at stake
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            • #7
              Just stay away from guys trying to act slick at a bar or club and you should be fine. If you get to know a guy a little before anything goes on it would probably help out a lot as well. Not all men are like that but I guess there is a good amount of it going on. The easiest way to tell is talk to them for a while before sleeping with them. You can wait about a week or so because most of these sleezy guys will be gone within a week if you haven't given it up. If they stick around, they probably aren't sleezy. Other than that, I'm not sure how you could tell the guys apart. That might not even work since I don't exactly go picking up on guys.

              Also, if I happen to be picking up on any women and they have read this, just ignore the wait a week thing.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by redbirdy80 View Post
                They don't dare wade in and try to speak where the wrath of a couple of single mothers is at stake
                Nah...a handfull would say something, but don't know what to say...some don't wanna log in and be seen, a couple hate Fred the Bunny and cold care less, lol & then the rest of them are in the INFRACTION THREAD...which is retarded to begin with.

                Seriously...

                Not a lot to be said that hasn't been said already on this subject.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by jhns View Post
                  Just stay away from guys trying to act slick at a bar or club and you should be fine. If you get to know a guy a little before anything goes on it would probably help out a lot as well. Not all men are like that but I guess there is a good amount of it going on. The easiest way to tell is talk to them for a while before sleeping with them. You can wait about a week or so because most of these sleezy guys will be gone within a week if you haven't given it up. If they stick around, they probably aren't sleezy. Other than that, I'm not sure how you could tell the guys apart. That might not even work since I don't exactly go picking up on guys.

                  Also, if I happen to be picking up on any women and they have read this, just ignore the wait a week thing.
                  I'd wait a lot longer than a week, lol...not tlaking about your comment
                  Some guys turn it into a conquest & can hold out for awhile...while they play with about three other girls at the same time. It's a game to them now...

                  Not being sexist...I know that women do this too now a days.

                  I'm on the outside looking in.
                  I see my friends & what they go through.
                  Really discouraging.

                  Then I see my guy friends...who are appearantly nothing like the other guys in this world...maybe they are but since I'm in a different catagory and can't see it.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Fred the Bunny View Post
                    What? Everyone's reading, but nobody's saying anything?

                    I hear crickets!

                    Ugh...
                    fred
                    ive been thru the gauntlet
                    dated girls without kids for the most part and wasnt very happy with them
                    i always liked kids (probably b/c im a big 32 year old kid myself) and the girls i dated i later found out that they would rather not have kids or as many as id like to have. when i go out to family events (trust me these are few and far between) i usually end up hanging with the kids then the adults cuz they are more fun to be around with.

                    just telling ya some guys do enjoy kids and women with kids out there


                    my current gf and i have a beautiful daughter together and she has 2 other kids from a previous marriage.

                    two boys (not just one but two) and i care for em like they are my own.

                    some guys are just into people for one thing and one thing only but they other guys (myself) look past all that and want to get to be with the person because of who they are. i guess it a growing up thing or what not but im 32 and a kid at heart. i dont think ill ever grow up. if i could live in never never land i would

                    just letting ya know from a 32 year old male point of view, some people do look past a female's kids they have with someone else and will treat them like they are their own.
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                    • #11
                      I think this thread may be a bit out of line, especially since you're passing judgement on probably more than a few on this board (myself included), but I felt compelled to respond anyway.


                      For starters, you're calling an awful lot of men cowards for things they may do in circumstances that you don't understand. Secondly, I have seen some women do some pretty skeezy **** that doesn't even compare to the things most men do.
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by SeeingRed View Post
                        I think this thread may be a bit out of line, especially since you're passing judgement on probably more than a few on this board (myself included), but I felt compelled to respond anyway.


                        For starters, you're calling an awful lot of men cowards for things they may do in circumstances that you don't understand. Secondly, I have seen some women do some pretty skeezy **** that doesn't even compare to the things most men do.
                        i dont really find it more of a passing judgement on board members here

                        i find it as a person who was with someone for a long period of time (10 years) now finding the world a lil different then before.

                        most people go thru this after a break up and a woman with a kid now re-entering the dating scene. it a lil bit different from before.

                        men and women are both subject to being treated like dirt or meat.

                        i dont think fred made this thread to point fingers at posters here, just a thread about what she now see's going on that she didnt before
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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Fred the Bunny View Post
                          This makes me sad.
                          I would like to see the women I know (and adore) love themselves enough to slow down & take the time to look for what they truly want in a relationship....never settle for anything less than what they want & deserve.
                          I hope I'm not out of line here (as I hardly know you), but something you said (above) reminded me of several recent conversations I've had with a very good friend of mine, and it's difficult for me to get past the parallels here. He's discovered the "Law of Attraction" and it's turned his life around. I won't bore you with the details, but essentially, the very moment he ceased becoming a skeptic (with relationships, with "The Law", and just in general) many good things started to happen.

                          Now, people can believe what they want to believe, and I wouldn't be telling you this if I didn't believe in it a little and if I didn't have personal experiences with it - as 'it' was also instrumental in the genesis and development of my own marital relationship. All I can say is... give it a try.

                          Some things to practice (taken from Wiki)

                          1. Know what one desires and ask the universe for it. (The "universe" is mentioned broadly, stating that it can be anything from God to an unknown source of energy.)
                          2. Focus one's thought upon the thing desired with great feeling such as enthusiasm or gratitude.
                          3. Feel and behave as if the object of one's desire is on its way.
                          4. Be open to receiving it.

                          Essentially, stay positive... and yes, know what you desire/deserve and fill yourself and your thoughts with it. I know it's hard sometimes, but remove the skepticism and negativity from what you're seeing and they will become bored with you and leave. This will help to open the door for the more positive people and circumstances to enter your life. Someone is out there waiting for you to do this.

                          For what it's worth, FTB - good luck; I wish you the best. Something tells me that you're the type of person that won't be held down for long. You know you deserve the best, but also know that the best deserves you.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Mount-n-Groan View Post
                            You know you deserve the best, but also know that the best deserves you.

                            That is one of the best thoughts that I have heard.
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                            • #15
                              As a happliy married woman, I cant offer much in the way of navigating the singles scene. The only thing I can suggest is for you to concentrate on yourself.

                              Sit down and write a list of all the things you want to do in this world, and what it takes to get them. Concentrate on you and improving yourself and hanging out with little man.

                              The rest will come with time. Give yourself time to heal, time for you. You need to find an identity outside of you being part of a couple.

                              You know whats out there, what size the fish are and what they look like. Take a break from it, and the waters and the fish will change.

                              And for me, this is what worked. I concentrated on my life and what I wanted to do (go to school, graduate, make decent money and buy a small house and get a cat). I know thats a small goal. but it was my goal.

                              Now, granted, all that has changed. I am selling my house, live in a new town, happily married, have a dog, cat and a kid. I do not envy your position.

                              Just find you, then find who deserves to be with you.
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