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    Best friend with girlfriend

    That's right. My best friend, who hasn't had a girlfriend since the 6th grade, now has a girlfriend. The thing is though he has been completely ignoring me for the past 2 weeks!

    Like literally he doesn't want to hang out anymore or do anything because he's at his girlfriends house.

    I know I've had girlfriends and I've always made time to hang out with him but it's really pissing me off that he's completely ditched me! Now I've been hanging out with my other friends but during that time my best friends attitude has been pissing me off lately. It's like I know you've never had a girlfriend in forever but that doesn't mean that once you get one you completely ditch your bro like that.

    One part of me wants to call him and tell him to go eat pork rinds but then another part of me is saying give him some time with his girlfriend then he will want to hang out again.

    The thing that mainly infuriates me though is the fact that I really did make time to hang out with him when I've had girlfriends in the past and now he's not making time or giving an effort to make time to hang out.

    Jealousy? Probably... But I'm still pissed off!
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    The power of the magic triangle

    Just let things be, it is the call of the wild. Get in the way of it,bad things tend to happen.

    I was the same way, left my friends for a girl. Seems rational to me.


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    I've had to deal with this a lot in the past...and it sucks. Its really hard to decide what to do, you're right. But honestly...I would just ask him to hang out with you one night one-on-one or suggest you have a "guys night" and see what he says.

    If he says no, then forget the guy. I've found that with girls, in order to spend time with each other when we are in relationships you just have to set out a time for "girls only" it might work for you? I dunno...I just hope his girlfriend is understanding that he needs to spend time with his friends too.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bronco_Armada View Post
    The power of the magic triangle

    Just let things be, it is the call of the wild. Get in the way of it,bad things tend to happen.

    I was the same way, left my friends for a girl. Seems rational to me.

    My friend does make stupid decisions ALL the time.

    Does that mean I can assume the same thing about you?

    I kid of course.

    But it's like you people have never heard of bros before hos. (ladies please don't be offended by that)

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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    My friend does make stupid decisions ALL the time.

    Does that mean I can assume the same thing about you?

    I kid of course.

    But it's like you people have never heard of bros before hos. (ladies please don't be offended by that)
    If one values sex above just about anything else in life then yes you can assume that about me.

    Infact you would correct.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bronco_Armada View Post
    If one values sex above just about anything else in life then yes you can assume that about me.

    Infact you would correct.
    I didn't want to bring that up in this thread since it would be a little racy but now that you've brought it up this is one of the main reasons why I want to give him some time to hang out with his girlfriend so then he'd get laid and he'd maybe want to hang out again.

    But if he continues to ignore me for a long long time then I will be pissed and I know he hasn't been getting any.

    I'm sorry to anyone that finds this offensive but this is how a man's mind works.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    I didn't want to bring that up in this thread since it would be a little racy but now that you've brought it up this is one of the main reasons why I want to give him some time to hang out with his girlfriend so then he'd get laid and he'd maybe want to hang out again.

    But if he continues to ignore me for a long long time then I will be pissed and I know he hasn't been getting any.

    I'm sorry to anyone that finds this offensive but this is how a man's mind works.
    I don't want to sound like a holy man or anything (because I am not) but it seems to me that people have sex just to brag about or just to do it then move on. I don't think that is right for either person. I really do think it should be with someone you really love. I will admit I am a "typical" guy but I am not a man whore either.

    Just my thoughts you or anyone do not have to agree with it nor will I try to convince you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    But it's like you people have never heard of bros before hos. (ladies please don't be offended by that)
    no offense at all, in fact I was gonna say it. Does his girlfriend make time for her friends? If not then she's never heard of chicks before ****s...

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    Quote Originally Posted by KatieElway7 View Post
    no offense at all, in fact I was gonna say it. Does his girlfriend make time for her friends? If not then she's never heard of chicks before ****s...
    LOL...good one!

    Anyway to the OP...I don't know how old you are but say youíre in high school or even out of high school. If this is your friends first girlfriend since the 6th grade...well that's a long time! Heck even if you in the 8th grade thatís a long time! Anyway give him some space and let him do what he needs to do and I bet in a week or two he will come around.

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    I'd say just give him some time. If it's a new gf then they're gonna be all over each other for a while. Eventually they'll have a fight and maybe you're the first one he calls to hang out to let off some steam with the pals.

    Some chics can be very demanding and controlling as well, which goes the other way of course, but that could be part of it. Maybe she's telling him he can't hang out if he wants to stay with her, in which case, he needs to leave her asap.

    But... I dunno, seems normal with most relationships, especially new ones.

    I'm like you though, I've tried to make time for friends even when I'd rather hang out with my girl...

    or maybe I'd rather hang out with my buds than my girl at times... so who knows... it goes both ways there.


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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    That's right. My best friend, who hasn't had a girlfriend since the 6th grade, now has a girlfriend. The thing is though he has been completely ignoring me for the past 2 weeks!

    Like literally he doesn't want to hang out anymore or do anything because he's at his girlfriends house.

    I know I've had girlfriends and I've always made time to hang out with him but it's really pissing me off that he's completely ditched me! Now I've been hanging out with my other friends but during that time my best friends attitude has been pissing me off lately. It's like I know you've never had a girlfriend in forever but that doesn't mean that once you get one you completely ditch your bro like that.

    One part of me wants to call him and tell him to go huck fimself but then another part of me is saying give him some time with his girlfriend then he will want to hang out again.

    The thing that mainly infuriates me though is the fact that I really did make time to hang out with him when I've had girlfriends in the past and now he's not making time or giving an effort to make time to hang out.

    Jealousy? Probably... But I'm still pissed off!
    The crucial question is . Do you yourself have a girlfriend ? Then you make her make friends with his girlfriend and double date. If the answers no you don't have a girlfriend then leave him the hell alone . A man takes care of his woman first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    That's right. My best friend, who hasn't had a girlfriend since the 6th grade, now has a girlfriend. The thing is though he has been completely ignoring me for the past 2 weeks!

    Like literally he doesn't want to hang out anymore or do anything because he's at his girlfriends house.

    I know I've had girlfriends and I've always made time to hang out with him but it's really pissing me off that he's completely ditched me! Now I've been hanging out with my other friends but during that time my best friends attitude has been pissing me off lately. It's like I know you've never had a girlfriend in forever but that doesn't mean that once you get one you completely ditch your bro like that.

    One part of me wants to call him and tell him to go huck fimself but then another part of me is saying give him some time with his girlfriend then he will want to hang out again.

    The thing that mainly infuriates me though is the fact that I really did make time to hang out with him when I've had girlfriends in the past and now he's not making time or giving an effort to make time to hang out.

    Jealousy? Probably... But I'm still pissed off!
    I feel your pain, it s*cks.

    I used to be like that, but then realized I did not have to pay my whole attention to one friend. I do have a lot of close friends, a lot, so I don't have to feel so bad about losing one to a girl (sounds ridiculous, but that way you don't feel somewhat alone). Most likely he will devote a lot of time to his girlfriend and you will move to second or third priority.

    My last close friend that got a gf has been with her for months and I do not really feel the impact since I have plenty of other close friends to hang out with

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    The begining of a relationship is where you set all the boundaries for the relationship. If he isn't hanging out with you now, she isn't going to like it when he finally does hang out with you.

    I'm kinda going through the same thing right now. My 2 best freinds are brothers. I've been friends with them for about 12 years. Within the last few months they both got girlfriends. For one of my friends, its like his first girlfriend ever (and he is 25). My other friend has had girlfriends in the past but nothing serious and they always last like a month or 2, he didn't have a girlfriend for about 2 years prior to this. Im happy they have girlfriends.

    All of a sudden, they never want to hang out. By the time I call them to hang out, they got plans with their girlfriends. I just think it's going to take them awhile before they can find a balance between their relationship and their friendships. Right now, I'm the one always stopping by and calling to hang out. IF they do want to hang out, their girlfriends are there.

    I'm an adult, so this isnt a big deal, but I understand the feeling when for years you have been "PLAN A" when it came to hanging out, then all of a sudden you aren't in the plans at all.

    The natural thing for people to want to do is be bitter or even jealous. Most of the situations that I have seen like that, your friend will come crawling back the minute his relationship goes bad and he is going to need a friend......depending on how he treated you while he was in his relatioship, you can either be there for him, or show him how it feels to be left hanging by his friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xX-Bronco-Xx View Post
    One part of me wants to call him and tell him to go Eat pork rindsbut then another part of me is saying give him some time with his girlfriend then he will want to hang out again.

    The thing that mainly infuriates me though is the fact that I really did make time to hang out with him when I've had girlfriends in the past and now he's not making time or giving an effort to make time to hang out.

    Jealousy? Probably... But I'm still pissed off!
    Wouldn't do any good if you did tell him that...he doesn't have to "huck fimself" anymore now that he has a gf.

    Seriously, though, talk to him about things. If he's a good friend, he'll understand where you're coming from. The important thing to remember is that you both need to recognize the other's situation.
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