My younger brother has Lupus as well, his kidneys are in failure and he has to undergo dialysis 3 times a week, for 3 hours each session. Some days he cant even get out of bed. I wish I could trade places with him since he has a son and a fiancee and I have no family. I even went through a full range of tests to see if my kidneys were compatable to be a donor, wouldnt you know it, I have kidney stones so that ruled me out. I understand fully what you're going through and wish you the best! GO BRONCOS!!